Ryan and I have a very interesting kind of relationship. We enjoy each other. As strange as that sounds we have found that there are so many couples that are so caught up in what they individually have to do instead of what to do as a whole. I am so blessed to have a strong example of a couple that literally enjoy spending time together. My parents work together and live together and they love it! Ryan and I are similar in this way. We like to just hang out together.
Do not mistake me I know so many couples that feel the same way but it is disheartening to see or gear of marriages where their marriage actually functions better when they are focused on themselves and don't have to actually be around their spouse. I am not trying to step on toes I am just so thankful for the relationship Ryan and I have. He is so much more than my Husband. He is my best friend, my confidant, and he is my joy in life.
We have kindly discussed in the past that love is not a feeling, it is a choice. So right after we got married we found this really cool passage which is actually in our wedding album it goes as follows:
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like am earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, and it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both and art and a fortunate accident. We have roots that grow toward each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms fall from our branches we find that we are one tree not two."
I just love this because it is eye opening. Are we a culture more focused on the "feeling" of being in love? It that why our divorce rate is so high? Is it possible to change a generations outlook on love and marriage? I look at my parents and by no means did they have a perfect marriage but they knew that whatever was going on they were more important. Their friendship and commitment to each other could never be less important in comparison to a disagreement or a struggle. I thank God every day for their astounding example.
I wonder, what are your thoughts on marriage today? What is the deeper cause for the divorce rate?
